Experiencing Relationship Weight Gain {Happy times = Scale Woes}

Posted October 2, 2014 in weight gain, weight loss, healthy living, health, relationships, living together, healthy cooking, workout, fitness, portion control

The BF and I moved in together in July, and it has such a wonderful experience so far. I love that I get to spend every day with him after four years of having a long distance relationship. 

To be honest, I hadn't weighed myself since August and didn't realize I had gained weight until I put on a pair of pants and they were uncomfortably tight. At first, I thought it was because I had eaten super salty foods the day before and I was a bit bloated. 

But I asked the BF if he had gained any weight since we moved in together and he said he'd put on 5 pounds. I weighed myself the next day and there it was - 3 pounds up since July!

Five and three pounds may not seem like a whole lot. But, for me, three pounds means my pants are tight and uncomfortable. I'm only 5' 5 1/2" tall and a little bit of weight gain is noticeable to me. It's probably not noticeable to anyone else, but I would prefer to be comfortable in my pants. 

Also, gaining control of your weight when you've only gained a few pounds is sooooooo much easier than having to lose weight after you've gained 20 pounds!!

I started doing some online research about relationships and weight gain. Apparently happy people gain weight (one of many sources). One article said to start cooking together rather than eating out, to get off the couch and start working out, to not eat as much as your man and to avoid your BF's unhealthy snacks. Hmmmmm. 

We don't eat out often and make home-cooked meals most of the time, I work out almost every day, I typically eat smaller portion sizes than the BF and I don't usually eat the BF's snacks. (I occasionally steal a bowl of his sugary cereal, but not often). 

I was actually surprised that we have gained weight. The majority of our meals are centered around vegetables. We've been experimenting with vegetarian and vegan dishes (and even raw vegan dishes). The BF made an insanely delicious vegan tofu stir fry! 

So why are we gaining weight?

  • We're eating too much. The BF thinks our portions are too large. Even though we're eating home-cooked meals, we may be eating too much. Example, the BF made cashew crusted chicken for dinner one night and we each ate an entire chicken breast, which was probably 2 servings of protein. I was totally stuffed, but it was so just so good.
  • When we indulge, we really go for it. I think I've mentioned this before, but I'm obsessed with really crappy-for-you ice cream. Like Blue Bunny White Chocolate Macadamia Nut Cookie or Kemp's Mini Donut. Ugh, I know. Not made with natural ingredients at all! I would have never bought these things before the BF and I moved in together, but we justify buying them to one another. OK, I tell him I want it and he says 'Get whatever you want, honey.' We also discovered 99 cent pastries as Panera after 7 p.m. Hello scones, cinnamon rolls and monster muffins. I justify it to myself because I eat healthy whole foods the majority of the time!
  • We aren't working out like we need to. Although I'm teaching five (soon to be seven) fitness classes a week, I'm not doing enough strength training. I get a bit of toning and strength work when I teach Piloxing, but the rest of my classes are cardio-based. Weight loss is achieved much easier when you're building muscle! The BF prefers to workout together - running, biking, etc. Since I've been teaching so much, we haven't been working out together as often. So he's not getting in his usual workouts.

We've decided these are the main reasons we've gained weight. So we're going to cut our portion sizes a bit, check ourselves before buying treats and push ourselves a bit with out workouts. I'm also going to stay away from the BF's snacks. No more cereal (even though Peanut Butter Cap n' Crunch is so delicious it should be illegal). 

Trust me, it's so much easier to get back on track when you've only put on a few pounds. Don't wait until you've gained 10 or 20 pounds! 

How do you get back on track when you've gained weight?

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