Learning to Love Yourself More {Part 2}

Posted February 12, 2016 in self-love, Self-Love February, self-esteem, authenticity, healthy living, holistic health, health coach

This month, I'm sharing tips to help you learn to love yourself more! Last week, I shared ways to incorporate more self-care into your life. (read about it here!)

This week, I want to talk about authenticity. One thing that I've realized over the years is that the more that I am my true self, the more I like myself.

Throughout our lives, we feel pressures from others, from society and from ourselves to be a certain way. We, purposefully and subconsciously, begin to mold ourselves into the person that we think fits those images. 

Maybe it's just dressing a certain way to fit in (which we still do as adults!), but it could also be pursuing a career that others felt was best for you. 

I began struggling with low self-esteem when a third-grade classmate informed me that I was fat. It was then that I felt like I didn't fit in anymore. I didn't realize it until I was an adult, but being skinny was tied to my self-worth. This was the beginning of decades of trying to get skinny to be loved, and years and years of destructive behaviors to cope with my low self-esteem.

So how do we let go of those messages we've been telling ourselves and become our true selves?

  • Make a list of the things that you love about yourself. Put it in a place that allows you to read it daily. Repeat the list in your head whenever you feel less than. 
  • Make a list of how you spend your time and a list of how you would prefer to spend your time. Compare the lists and begin making adjustments to make your life match the second list.
  • Let go of the mistakes you have made. How is punishing yourself for past mistakes serving you in a positive way? It's time to let them go, and move forward.
  • Give yourself permission to be imperfect. It's not about perfection, it's about progress. I share a lot of my imperfections and struggles on this blog. I do it to show you that, even as a health coach, I am not perfect and that is just fine. I make mistakes, I struggle, I don't know what I'm doing sometimes. But I continue to move forward.
  • Think about your values and how they align with your life. Do you value authenticity, but you aren't being honest about a struggle you're going through? Do you value family, but work has you spending more time away than at home? How can you align your values with how you're living?

How do you live an authentic life?

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